2020 has been a year full of uncertainty and unpredictability and here you are reading this email in hopes for some good news! Well, I might not have answers to making 2020 easier BUT I want to give a little hope your way.
Hope for happiness.
Hope for calmness.
Hope for love.
Hope for peace.
As humans, it is easy to fault others and not take responsibility for our actions. We love to point fingers and not accept our wrong doings. It is “easier” that way because then we don’t have to worry about the consequences.
Let’s take a second to think of a situation where it didn’t go YOUR way…
Let me share with you mine.
A couple weeks ago, I went out to eat with my sister and ordered a veggie chili. If you don’t know, I have been vegetarian for about 3 years and have not consumed any sort of meat to my knowledge in that time. Can you guess where this story ends? My belly looked 9 months pregnant and my mental state was squashed.
When I shared this to others their first thought was to blame the restaurant and that is exactly what I wanted to do. Instead of being upset with them I was truly upset with myself.
Accountability man. It’s a bitch. There were two things that could have happened.
The waitress didn’t hear me say ‘Veggie’ chilli
The kitchen put the wrong chili in the bowl.
Now, as a vegetarian, it was MY fault for ordering something and not double checking. I usually don’t gamble with restaurants and default to a veggie burger because they can’t f*** that up but I wanted to change it up. Changing things up sometimes can SUCK. I learned from this mistake and instead of being angry I found some gratitude from this situation.
I was grateful to spend time with my sister.
I was grateful to have the money to go out to eat.
I was grateful for supporting a small business and someone’s income.
Sometimes, life doesn’t go our way. There are two choices you have.
Find the good within the situation and learn.
Wallow in your self pity and blame others.
Trust me, it is WAY easier to go with route number 2 but remember that what goes around comes around and route number 1 might be more challenging but the end game is worth it.
I want you to think back to the situation I asked you to think about earlier. Let’s recreate the story with route number one and route number two.
Life is all about choice. Make them all count.