SELF SABOTAGE...


SELF MADE PART 2...

Before moving out to CO, I needed to have all my ducks in a row. I found, at the time, the only NBR hair artist looking to hire for an assistan

t and that was my fresh start. I got the job with a start date in October of 2018 and by the end of November of 2018 I got certified in Natural Beaded Row Hair Extensions. Never in my dreams did I think that would happen in 2018. I didn’t realize it then but when I got certified two beautiful, gigantic french doors were waiting to be pushed open.


I had ZERO plans of leaving the salon I was at but when you keep poking the bear it will rise at some point, right? In February of 2019, I decided to take a leap of faith and venture out ON MY OWN. I left my assisting job and accepted a full time job at Orangetheory to have a steady income. While working full time at Orangetheory, I still was on the hunt for a salon suite to call mine. I toured 4-5 different salons suites but then I came across an office building called ‘The Metlo’ and I was sold.


Now, I said in the beginning how I started this business a little “unconventional” and “bass akwards” here is the story of why I say that. Typically, when starting a new business you have a name, a very detailed business plan, and money. I had NONE of that but I had so much faith in myself and the DKW academy I was ready to take the risk.


Some people might be lucky enough to have “the bank of mom” to help you out and that is exactly where I started. I was scared shitless and had enough faith for the dream but not the financials. I started by getting a small personal loan to get the essentials; shampoo bowl, styling chair, mirror, color line..etc. I have never been the one completely in charge of everything but I was tired of using my skills to build other businesses up and never getting anything in return.


You might be thinking “what was the next step after that?” and your guess is as good as mine. I was in a "go with the flow" mind set.


Truth be told I was stretching myself very thin. In the beginning of 2019, I committed to so many things back in my home town and for NBR I couldn't keep up with my personal health. I was a part of two weddings, MOH in one of them, in charge of the bachelorette party & bridal shower, a prearranged spring break for my sisters senior year, my sister's graduation, and an unexpected funeral. I was working THREE jobs to keep a float and I went into more credit debt in SIX months than I ever thought I could. I was spending and spending just to keep to my commitments and my word to everyone. These events all took place from March-July of 2019. Let me tell ya, I was in FIGHT OR FLIGHT mode for the first 7 months of the new year. I also had commitments with the education program I am in called DKW Academy. I had to fly back to Laguna Beach, CA SIX times in one year. Could I afford that? Absolutely not. Did I do everything in my power to make it work, absolutely.


Holy s***, I’m exhausted just typing all that out.


I was 22-23 trying to balance life, owning a business, working part time jobs, trying to date, trying to have a social life, building a life in CO but traveling back home every other month, investing into NBR and traveling to CA, and I literally was sleeping in a closet size bedroom for a year.


I remember when I started at the Liquor store I was T I R E D. For example, I flew BACK from an education class in CA (mandatory) just in time to start my shift at Orangetheory. Then, I had to quickly book it to the liquor store (30 minutes from my other job) to get trained on a closing shift. I didn't leave the liquor store until 1:30 AM that night and THEN I had to OPEN at Orangetheory the next day getting up at 3:30 AM. I also had a client at 3pm that next day AND I had another closing shift at the liquor store. When I say I was in fight or flight mode... I was not exaggerating.


Life was TOUGH. I remember the EXACT day I knew I had enough. My body was done. My mind was done. I was done. I was driving down the interstate from Fort Collins(1 hour away), I just got my hair tightened (I am my walking advertisement) and called my mom bawling.


Not a cry of sadness or loneliness, it was a cry for f****** help. I was on the verge of sleep deprivation and truthfully I wasn’t sure what was to come next. I wanted to give up, hang my hat, and never look back.


But what I did next was CRUCIAL to my journey and the opportunity that came next was CRUCIAL.


I slept.


I slept for 13 hours. I didn’t wake up once. I didn’t wake up for a call, text, email.. Nothing.


I just slept.


When I woke, I had energy that I never thought I would be able to get back. I had f****** hope and started to see light at the end of the tunnel.


It was after this sleep that I started making logical decisions. Strategic decisions as some would say. After I had clarity and made it through those first 6-7 months of 2019, I felt like I could breathe again.


I got the opportunity to become full time at the liquor store and I accepted the job. I quit Orangetheory and started a NEW fight or flight mode.


Sobo Liquor’s paid me enough to start getting myself out of debt and the hours were SET. This was the opportunity that gave me HOPE.


My salon business was my part time gig while I was building my business and clientele.


I worked four days a week at SOBO putting in 40 hours a week. I worked 3 days at my salon putting in hours somewhere between 10-12 hour days. I started spending extra time in my days at the gym, socializing, dating, and honestly sleeping. It's wild saying"'extra time" but when you stop working every hour you have in the day the extra 2 hours felt AMAZING.


From January-July of 2019 I was pushed to the max. My life started to change come August and my clientele was building (slowly but surely), I had set hours at both my jobs, and I was starting to make a life here in Colorado.


By the end of 2019, I was feeling ALIVE. I had only ONE more event to travel to and that was the BMS convention for NBR. It’s a three day intensive training on business and hair put together by Danielle and her team. It was at this event where I felt in my gut that I was on the right path.


I left California feeling elated and ready for what was to come next…






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